There is no question that those who use this term are "downright mean and nasty". We can thank a certain anti-Confederate hater in TX for this one, and, in my opinion, our own people, who buy right into it, using the term to describe any of us they feel are too "radical".
Using "Neo" is very intentional, and effectively links us to "Neo-Nazi" in the public's mind, where there is absolutely no connection otherwise. 150 years after the War Between the States began, there is certainly nothing "Neo" (new) about us, or our devotion to our gallant Confederate ancestors.
This is compounded by the fact that some of our own folks have embraced the term, and use it to describe others within the Heritage community. What these folks fail to realize is that the people who use this term, use it to describe ALL OF US...from the 85 year old UDC member lovingly decorating a soldier's grave...to the activist "taking it to the streets". There is absolutely no distinction in their mind. To them, if one has the UNMITIGATED GALL to attempt to honor one's Confederate ancestor...one is automatically a "Neo-Confederate".
IMHO, the gentleman only reinforced their behavior by backing down and returning the contribution. When will we learn that there is no compromising with these people? Does he think those people are now going to vote for him? Start giving him a fair shake? NOTHING will satisfy them, and yet we continue to kowtow, begging for approval and acceptance that will never, ever come.
Forward the Colors. Honor the Soldier.
"...I hold concession or compromise to be fatal. If we concede an inch, concession would follow concession--compromise would follow compromise, until our ranks would be so broken that effectual resistance would be impossible." - John C. Calhoun